Trigger Warning: 
This video shows a fictional scenario leading up to a rape.

It does not show the rape itself, but may be triggering to some people.
Please take this into consideration before viewing the film.

If you would like support, please click on “Get Help” above to find a service near you.


Who Are You Toolkit
Who Are You? is a free toolkit that uses group exercises and a short film to educate young people about the prevention of sexual violence and ethical sexual decision making.

The toolkit can be used by educators to facilitate group sessions that are fun and interactive, and build skills in children and young people. It is easy to use and can be adapted for different age groups or learning abilities.

This toolkit works well alongside health classes for year ten, or as part of citizenship, sexual health and anti-bullying curriculum. This is suitable for over 15′s.

The toolkit is free to all NZ organisations, there is a small fee for international orders.


If you have been raped, experienced sexual violence or are concerned about someone you know and you need to talk about it
If you are a concerned partner, family member or friend

What do we mean by
‘sexual violence’?

  • rape: acquaintance, stranger, drug, partner, date, gang, or of a child
  • sexual touch that is unwanted or uncomfortable
  • making explicit sexual threats
  • peeping and flashing
  • sexual harassment
  • being forced to watch or participate in pornography
  • being secretly watched or photographed while undressing or naked

Find help in your area

Zoom in on the map below to find services near you. If your local service is not available, the following phone lines provide a 24/7 telephone crisis and support service:

  • Rape Crisis National Call Line  0800 88 33 00
  • HELP Auckland  09 623 1700
  • Wellington Sexual Abuse HELP  04 499 7532

Community based services for children, young people and adults who have engaged in
harmful or abusive sexual behaviour or sexual offending
Advice and support for concerned partners, family members and friends

Wellington, Manawatu, Wanganui, Hawkes Bay, Gisborne
ph: 04 566 4745

Safe Network 
Auckland, Northland, Waikato, Bay of Plenty
ph: 09 377 9898

STOP Programme
Christchurch, Dunedin, Invercargill, Nelson
ph: 03 374 5010

Services vary in each region so please phone to find out what is available in your area. For alcohol support and information please see:


Initiated and launched in Wellington, New Zealand, this ground-breaking multi-media campaign is a collaborative effort from Tū Pakari Ora – Sexual Assault Assessment and Treatment Service, Sexual Abuse Prevention Network, Wellington Sexual Health, Sexual Abuse HELP Foundation, Radio Network Wellington, Hutt Rape Counselling Network, Wellington Police, Doctors for Sexual Abuse Care and Regional Public Health.

The Who Are You? Toolkit  was developed and designed by the Who Are You? Steering Committee, comprised of:

  • Sexual Abuse Prevention Network, Wellington New Zealand
  • Wellington Sexual Health and Sexual Assault Services
  • Wellington HELP Foundation
  • The Radio Network, Wellington


In New Zealand, it is estimated that 1 in 4 females and 1 in 8 males are likely to experience sexual violence or abuse in their lifetimes (NZ National Survey of Crime Victims, MoJ, 2004 and Fanslow, 2007). Offenders are most often known to the victim, and the events leading up to the assault are often witnessed by others. Sexual violence can often be prevented if someone does something…however small.

Most of us want help if we are in an unsafe situation. But most of us aren’t sure how to step in and help others, even when it’s happening right in front of us.

The ‘Who Are You’ campaign focuses on what each and every one of us can do to stop a possible sexual assault from happening.

It asks us all:

  • What if we looked after each other?
  • What if we became ‘ethical’ bystanders?
  • What if we took action that could help keep others safe?

Being an ethical bystander is all about doing little things, long before we get to the point of harm. Sexual violence can have an enormous impact on people’s lives – not just the victims, but their families, partners and friends. This project asks us to consider “Who am I” and what would I do? It offers ideas about actions we can all take which will help keep everyone safe. 

It’s not about being a hero or putting yourself at risk, but it is about preventing sexual violence.

The theme of this campaign and short film was informed by Professor Moira Carmody’s (University of Western Sydney, Australia) research and the resulting Sex & Ethics: The sexual ethics education program for young people (2009) Palgrave Macmillan, Melbourne, which focuses on sexual violence prevention using ethical decision making strategies and the concept of bystander intervention.


Ministry of Social Development.

The Harbour - A point forward for those affected by harmful sexual behavior

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Wellington Help